Happy Thursday, friends! Today, I’m coming at you with another edition of my Bloggers Who Inspire series. I have been a reader of Rachel’s for a long time and find myself to feel reassured after reading nearly every post. As you may be able to tell by the title of her blog, The Confused Millennial, Rachel shares her experiences and tips that she has learned while navigating through her twenties. She writes very candidly and each post feels like a conversation with a girlfriend. I’ll let Rachel do they rest of the talking for herself, here is her edition of Bloggers Who Inspire.
Name: Rachel Ritlop
Blog: The Confused Millennial
As you’ve gotten older, how has your definition of ‘success’ changed, if at all?
Oh dang… this is something I am constantly changing my mind on. I think growing up “success” meant a power suit, in a NYC skyscraper making a bajillion dollars a year. Today, the thought of being in a suit or in a formal office makes my stomach turn! Success for me is about being able to create my dream work-life balance, having the flexibility and freedom to do the things I love when I want. The money seems to be following as I keep putting my focus and attention towards heart centered projects and people.
On your blog, you share your monthly goals. How you set yourself up for success in achieving them?
It’s SO funny you asked this! I started doing monthly goal posts in November 2016, and literally two months later I am deciding to stop them! I am a perfectionist at heart, and unfortunately writing out those goals brought out that side of me. I started to obsess on whether or not I was hitting some of the “number” goals and it was pulling me away from the joy of blogging. I got to the level I got this year by actually not setting goals really. Instead (and this will totally answer your question on setting myself up for success), I focused on being present for the community around me and the community I was trying to build. I really have a big picture long term end game with the blog (it’s a whole five year top secret plan kind of thing) – and I know building an engaged community is the way to get there. So I’ve really been filtering all the monthly stuff I need to do through this big picture lens and asking myself “how can I add value to these peoples lives and start a relationship with them?”
The Confused Millennial gives its readers insights on various aspects of life. What one piece of advice would you like to give millennials as we are moving full-steam into 2017?
Stay open and say “yes”. – Every time I thought I had my “passion” figured out or knew exactly where I was going in life, a wrench was thrown into my plans. I have really been focusing on taking a step back from planning and taking a step forward on connecting which has kept my eyes open to amazing people and opportunities I never would’ve seen coming had I been super focused on what I thought I “should” be doing. Every opportunity, no matter how big or scary, I said yes to this year and it’s created amazing relationships and revenue streams in my life.
What person/place/thing has had the most impact on your life?
My husband. I know it’s so cliche, but he is the entire reason I started this journey into entrepreneurship back in 2014 and he has really challenged and pushed me in finding my voice and creating a space where I feel confident in my abilities to serve others.
Do you feel like you’ve been able to achieve a good-for-you work-life balance? How would you suggest others achieve such a balance?
YASSS! Well most days… then there are those days where you can’t get my out of bed and away from Netflix unless it’s to answer the door for the pizza man! I have worked 18 hour days this year and have spent multiple days working 0 hours this year. Simon Sinek once said something along the lines of, where you passion and career intersect is that point where people are willing to pay you for something you would’ve done for free anyway; and that so perfectly describes my life today. I love my coaching clients, and our sessions often go over the hour time limit because I want to keep talking with them! I love the blog and have put in 18 hour days because it’s so fun. I also love the beach and tv and make sure to show up for those and leave the phone behind when I do. — It’s really hard for me to suggest how others should achieve their work-life balance, since it’s going to look so different for everyone and will likely change from year to year. Not planning and listening to my mind and body was how I did it this year. Next year, I can already tell you thought it looks like a lot of pre-planning and color coding every area of my life. I think following my monthly Forbes posts each month could give people some good insights on where they may be lacking or how to create better balance in their lives.
Check out one of Rachel’s Forbes articles here.
The Confused Millennial has definitely become a resource for me and other readers to turn to when we need clarification or words of encouragement about navigating “the adult world.” What motivates you to help other people?
Yay! That makes me so happy to hear! What motivates me… Well I was forced to grow up a lot faster than most people during my teen years and it led to me hitting a lot of milestones faster than my friends. I was also a major over achiever and really excelled in everything I did… so when I got fired twice in under a month at 25 (while I was already in the middle of my quarter life crisis), it was a major wake up call that I didn’t have this whole “adult thing” figured out. The more I read about millennials, the more I realized my story of being an over achiever good student, floundering in the “real world” was totally normal. I started having conversations with friends who felt the same way and just knew how alone I felt trying to figure everything out, that I decided to start focusing more attention on helping others figure out how to adult.
I cannot thank Rachel enough for being this month’s feature in this series. I have really enjoyed creating this series so far and I hope you all have been enjoying it as well. Do you find another blogger very inspiring? Let me know who they are and why they’re inspiring down below in the comments!
Who inspires you?